Defining What Success is to You
Let’s face it. We live in an age where social media success and going viral on the world wide web is seen as the ultimate form of success. Due to the rapid release of information at the tip of the thumb, the world has almost immediate access to an overload of information. In some ways, this is a good thing, but more often than not, the ease of access to information stunts the creative and authentic process of doing business.
Social media has a way of making everyone look successful. From mentions in the media to lavish trips to exotic islands, it is as if being a “normal” hard-working citizen is no longer the epitome of success, only the appearance of success is the move. Well, I beg to differ.
I am a firm believer that success to one may very well be a failure to most. As I’ve achieved a certain amount of what my peers consider “successful,” I’ve learned that my ultimate success is determined by my ambitions. As of now, I am not successful, I’ve just earned a few small successes here and there to keep me forging ahead.
If you desire to feel and to be successful in your own right, ask yourself these three questions:
- What does success look like to me?
Are you craving success to build your own ambitions or to uplift those around you? Are you the first in your family to go to college or to start a business? Do you want to be well-known throughout the world because of your charisma or knowledge? What do you want? And what does your dream life of success look like to you?
- Who around me is successful?
Studies show that you will become like the five people with whom you spend the most time. So, who is in your circle? Better yet, who in your circle is living a life that you’d want because you consider it successful? If there is no one you would want to switch lives within your group of friends, associates, or colleagues, you need to expand your influence and surround yourself with those who make you challenge your won status quo.
- What do I need to do to create the success I desire?
This is the key. Taking action. Action is what separates that “haves” from the “have-nots” and the “fails” from the “successes.” After you pinpoint what success looks like to you, you need to map out your plan of action to make it happen. Trust, nothing happens overnight, but with a solid and true plan that resonates with you and speaks to the essence of who you are and what you desire out of life, small wins eventually mount up to huge victories.
Seriously, cars, clothes, houses, and piles of money is not success. It’s an illusion. If no one has ever told you, material things rarely bring happiness. And the more money you make, the more problems you take on! So, take the time to truly hone in on what you want and what you need to live a fulfilled life. Don’t allow the distraction of playing the comparison game bombard your spirit and make you feel as if where you are, you are less than the next person. You are doing good where you are, but with focus and commitment, you could do better. We call could.